Traditional culture discourages being single. But we are imperfect. How could imperfect couples live happily ever after? Couples need to give up their independence, and work together to resolve many conflicts. 1 Cor 7:3-4 even describes sex being controlled by one’s spouse. So, it is understandable that many are cynical towards marriage, and glorify independence.
But remember that God did not just create Adam. God created Adam and Eve to be together.
Having said that, for Christians, it is also fine to be single. Paul even suggested not looking for a wife in 1Corin 7:27-28.
In other words, don’t be too eager to get married.
A few other issues.
Our culture puts too much emphasis on sexual immorality. 1 Cor 6:9-11 describe a list of bad characters. They include the sexually immoral, thieves, greedy, drunkards, slanderers, and swindlers. For example, both greed and sexual immorality are on the list. If we define greed as an intense selfish desire for wealth, power or food, then both greed and sexual immorality focus on selfish needs. But our culture treats the sexually immoral much worse than the greedy.
How to have sex control? Learn from those on diet. They bear hunger for something desirable, such as health. Similarly, have sex control for something desirable, such as more fulfilling sex, happier spouse, or better able to follow God.
For those who could not forgive themselves for their past sexual mistakes, remember that we are imperfect. We constantly love something else more than God, committing adultery against Him. But the blood of Christ has cleansed us. Christ has forgiven us, like He had forgiven the adulterer in John 8:8-11. So, forgive our past mistakes and leave our former life of sin.
Focus on God. Only God can truly satisfy us. Tie our hope to God.
Adapted from a Tim Keller’s sermon.
传统文化不鼓励单身。但是我们并不完美。不完美的夫妇怎能过快乐幸福的生活？夫妻需要放弃独立，要共同解决许多冲突 。哥林多前书 7：3-4甚至描述了性爱是由配偶控制的。因此，许多人否定与拒绝婚姻，并赞美独立是可以理解的。
话虽如此，对于基督徒来说，单身亦也是好的。 保罗甚至在哥林多前书 7：27-28建议不要尋求配偶。