 Marriage’s foundation, Definition and Priority
One of the foundations of marriage is a servant heart, with the spouses submitting to each other. A servant heart helps the spouses to hear criticism without being demoralized, to give suggestions humbly, and to forgive without residual anger. How do we have a servant heart? We need to know we were nothing. We are children of God entirely because of Christ, not because of our performances, accomplishments or love. Christ sacrificed dearly for us. So we learn to submit to each other, at least because we should honor Christ (Ephesians 5:21). Marriage is a permanent commitment. Emotions fluctuate, but commitment helps get us through difficult times. Also, our heart is where we invest our time, effort, and emotion. Action, emotion, and commitment feed on each other. Spousal relationships should be above all other human relationships. It is where a man leaves his parents and unites to his wife (Ephesians 5:32-33, Genesis 2:24). Most other societies emphasize children and parents more, but in Christianity, our spouse takes the lead. Our children shouldn’t be the center of the family. We should love them but not let our relationship with them eclipse our relationship with our spouse. Our parents shouldn’t be the center. If a man is closer to his parents than his spouse, he hasn’t left them. Marriage should be where we share all parts of our life. If we tell everything we heard from our spouse to another person, our spouse probably will not open up. Also, try to know your spouse deeply. We are different with different ways of living, such as the family pattern we grew up with. If the wife’s father shows love by changing diapers, but the husband’s mother shows love by never letting her spouse change diapers, then just changing diapers may cause conflict. We need to really understand our spouse, including the spouse’s upbringing. On certain things, we may need a change in perspective. In conclusion, husbands and wives should serve each other. Marriage is where spouses commit to each other and prioritize the marital relationship over others. Also, spouses should try to know each other well. Hopefully, our spouse is our closest partner, one who understands, accepts, appreciates, and works with us. Summarized from: http://www.gospelinlife.com/free-sermon-resource http://www.gospelinlife.com/marriage-as-commitment-priority-4659 婚姻的基础，定义和排位轻重 婚姻其中一个的基础是有仆人的心，彼此顺服。仆人的心帮我们听见了批评也不会灰心丧气，虚心地给予对方提议，和宽恕了也都不遗留怨愤。 如何有一个仆人的心？我们要知道自己什么都没有。我们是上帝的儿女，完全是因为基督，而不是因为我们的行为，成就或爱心。基督为我们牺牲了自己。因此，我们应学会互相顺服，至少是出于我们对基督的尊敬 （以弗所书 5:21）。 婚姻是永久的承诺。承诺是第一，其次才是情感。情感可会动摇。但是承诺可以帮我们度过困难时期。并且，我们的心是在我们投入时间，精力和情感的地方。行动, 情感，和承诺三方互助成长。 丈妻关系应该处于所有其他关系之上。它是一位男子离开父母，与妻子结合在一起的地方 （以弗所书 5：32-33和创世纪 2:24）。多数其他社会更加重视孩子与父母的关系。但是在基督教中，婚姻关系是占首位的。 我们的孩子不应成为家庭的中心。我们应该爱他们，但不要让我们与他们的关系超越我们与配偶的关系。 我们的父母不应成为中心。不要关心父母多于关心我们的配偶。如果一位男子亲近他的父母多于他的配偶，那么他还没有离开他的相亲。 婚姻应该是我们可分享生活全部的地方。如我们将从配偶那里听来的一切告诉另一人 ，那么配偶很可能就不会再打开心扉。 此外，尝试深入地了解您的配偶。我们都有不同生活方式，例如我们成长的家庭教养。如果妻子的父亲通过换尿布来表达爱意，而刚刚相反丈夫的母亲宁可自己做来表达爱意，那么仅仅换尿布这件事就可引起冲突。我们需要好好的了解我们的配偶，包括配偶成长的经历。在某些事情上, 我们可能需要改变我们的观点, 重新开始。 总而言之, 丈妻应互相服侍, 至少是出于我们对基督的尊敬。 婚姻是夫妻彼此承诺的地方，并且应将伴侣排位优先于他人。 另外，夫妻应尽量彼此了解。希望我们的配偶是我们最亲密的伙伴，一个了解，接受，欣赏并与我们合作的伙伴。 Comments are closed.
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