 Marriage’s Foundation, Definition and Priority
One of the foundations of marriage is a servant heart, with the spouses submitting to each other. A servant heart helps the spouses to hear criticism without being demoralized, to give suggestions humbly, and to forgive without residual anger. How do we have a servant heart? We need to know we were nothing. We are children of God entirely because of Christ, not because of our performances, accomplishments, or love. Christ sacrificed dearly for us, which includes our spouses. So, learn to put your spouse first, at least because of honoring Christ (Ephesians 5:21). Marriage is a permanent commitment. Emotions fluctuate, but commitment helps get us through difficult times. Also, our heart is where we invest our time, effort, and emotion. Action, emotion, and commitment feed on each other. Spousal relationships should be above all other human relationships. It is where a man leaves his parents and unites to his wife (Ephesians 5:32-33, Genesis 2:24). Most other societies emphasize children and parents more, but in Christianity, our spouse takes the lead. Our children shouldn’t be the center of the family. We should love them but not let our relationship with them eclipse our relationship with our spouse. Our parents shouldn’t be the center. If a man is closer to his parents than his spouse, he hasn’t left them. Marriage should be where we share all parts of our life. If we tell everything we heard from our spouse to another person, our spouse probably will not open up. Also, try to know your spouse deeply. We are different with different ways of living, such as the family pattern we grew up with. If the wife’s father shows love by changing diapers, but the husband’s mother shows love by never letting her spouse change diapers, then just changing diapers may cause conflict. We need to really understand our spouse, including the spouse’s upbringing. On certain things, we may need a change in perspective. In conclusion, husbands and wives should serve each other. Marriage is where spouses commit to each other and prioritize the marital relationship over others. Also, spouses should try to know each other well. Hopefully, our spouse is our closest partner, one who understands, accepts, appreciates, and works with us. Summarized from: http://www.gospelinlife.com/free-sermon-resource http://www.gospelinlife.com/marriage-as-commitment-priority-4659 婚姻的根基，定义和优先次序 婚姻的根基之一是对配偶有颗仆人的心，两人彼此顺服。仆人的心帮助人聆听对方批评也不灰心丧气，谦卑地给对方提建议，宽恕对方而不留怨愤。 如何拥有一颗仆人的心呢？当知道自己什么都不是。我们成为上帝的儿女完全是因为基督，而非因为自己的行为、成就或爱心。基督为我们(这包括我们的配偶) 付出了沉重的代价。因此，学会把你的配偶放在第一位，至少是为了荣耀基督（以弗所书5:21）。 婚姻是永久的承诺。情感可以动荡，但彼此的承诺可以帮助两人渡过困难时刻。并且一个人的投资在哪里，无论是时间、精力，还是情感，心就在那里。行动、 情感和承诺三方互助成长。 丈妻关系应该高于所有其它关系之上。人离开父母与妻子结合，夫妻关系就建立了 （以弗所书5：32-33，创世纪2:24）。多数其它的社会更加重视亲子关系。但是在基督教中婚姻关系居首位。 儿女不应成为家庭的中心。应该爱儿女，但不要让亲子关系超越与配偶的关系。 父母不应成为家庭的中心。如果人亲近父母多于配偶，他还没有真正离开父母。 婚姻应该是可分享全部生活的地方。如果将从配偶那里听来的一切告诉他人 ，配偶很可能就不会再倾心吐意般地打开心扉。 此外当尝试深入了解自己的配偶。我们都有不同生活方式，例如成长时不同的家庭教养。如果妻子的父亲通过换尿布来表达爱意，而刚刚相反丈夫的母亲宁可自己做来表达，那么仅仅换尿布这件事就可引起冲突。需要真正地了解我们的配偶，包括其成长的经历。在某些事情上,可能需要改变自己的观点, 重新开始一个新的角度。 总而言之, 丈妻应彼此服侍。 婚姻是夫妻彼此的承诺地，夫妻关系优先于其它关系。 另外夫妻应尽量彼此了解。希望配偶是最亲密的伙伴，一位彼此了解、接受、欣赏并合作的伴侣。 Comments are closed.
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