Lust is powerful and addictive. Look at the huge pornography industry. But Christ said, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matt 5:28.
Yet, the Bible rejoices in sex and sexual desire. Genesis 1 depicts God creating sex through male and female. He called His creations very good. In Genesis 2:23, before God, naked Adam characterized naked Eve as bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. The Song of Solomon celebrates sexual love, for example with one admiring the other’s body when the other was going in for sex (Chpts 5 & 7).
Sex should unify two persons, not just physically, but emotionally, mentally, and spiritually also.
But sex without marriage means the parties only want to be united physically, with each holding onto their own life, keeping their options open. They are splitting their bodies from their souls.
Sex should be an integrated act. It should re-confirm each party belonging completely and exclusively to the other. Thus, sex should be limited to marriage. Then sex would give deep fulfillment.
Lust is different from sexual desire. When a man lusts for a woman, he wants her body only, but not any other parts of her. He has dehumanized her.
Lust is also an excessive desire. One could be totally driven by lust, making it the center of one’s life. It is like an idol. After getting the other’s body, one still feels empty. There is no deep fulfillment in lust.
The passage on lust (Matt 5:27-30) also points to eyes and hands. Eyes refer to what one perceives, and hands refer to actions. Have the right perception. Know that physically attractive is good, but is just skin deep and could not give our life meaning. Also have the right action. Need to run away from lustful environment.
Sex in marriage is wonderful. But it cannot replace God as the center of our life.
Christ constantly refers Himself as the bridegroom, who accepts and loves us, His bride. Through faith, we become absolutely beautiful in Christ’s eyes. Christ becomes the center of our life. Only He could give meaning to our life, with deep fulfillment.
情欲有很大力量而且容易令人入迷。看看庞大的色情行业。但基督说, 任何一个人淫乱地看着女人，他已经在心里犯了奸淫 (马太福音5:28)。
然而，圣经表扬性和性欲。创世记第一章中描绘了上帝通过性创造人类, 称祂的创造很好。在创世记2:23中，在上帝面前，赤裸的亚当将赤裸的夏娃描绘成他骨中的骨和他肉中的肉。所罗门之歌（Song of Solomon）赞颂性爱，例如，一个人从性的角度来看或欣赏另一个人的肉体（第五章和第七章）。
性不应该仅使两个人在身体上统一，也应该在情感, 心理, 和灵魂上统一。
情欲也是一种过度性的欲望。一个人可能完全被它控制, 成为这个人生活的中心。情欲像一个偶像。 即使得到对方的身体，仍然会感到空虚。它无法给予人深深的满足。
基督不断地将自己称为新郎，接受并且爱祂的新娘--我们。通过信，我们在基督眼中变得绝对美丽. 基督成为我们生命的中心。只有他才能赐给我们生命意义, 给我们深深的满足。