 Today, dating typically starts from outside stuffs. Is that person pleasant looking, sexually attractive, doing well, or well-connected? If yes, the next steps are dating, and then caressing and sex. If that works out fine, see if both could commit.
But sex is a powerful force. It would muddle up our thinking. Should start from friendship to see if both sides could understand, accept, appreciate, and work with each other, preferably towards common goals. Then move on to deeper friendship, romance, and commitment, before going to sex. Fulfillment in sex comes from deep physical intimacy and full commitment from both sides. So, sex and marriage should be tied. As to masturbation, it focuses on just giving ourselves satisfaction. After reaching climax, one could feel more empty and lonely. Also masturbation depends on fantasy and is addictive. Don’t let it control us. Don’t try to know everything about the other side before commitment. We are imperfect. Our relationship with our spouses depends on God, and our intent to honor Him and to honor our commitment. Also God continues to work on us. So, don’t be too cautious. After we have spent some time with a person and we really like that person, trust God and commit. What if we are constantly being rejected in dating? Try to identify the reasons. Ask your close friends for suggestions. Then move on and seek out other opportunities. Some want to remain single. That could be a good choice. Paul recommended being single (1 Corinthians 7:1-7), and Christ was single on earth. Though God said it was good for the perfect Adam to have Eve (Genesis 2), happy marriage is difficult to have because we are imperfect. A spouse could reprogram our self-image, which could inflict damage on us. So, don’t be fixated on getting married or being single. Some idolize being single because they value independence. This can be encouraged by sex outside marriage. Others treat being single as a plague. They may just want others to take care of them. Avoid both. For some, being single comes easily. That is a gift. But for most, it is better to be married. Ask God for guidance, and thank God for the outcome, whether we are single or married. Summarized from a Tim Keller sermon. http://www.gospelinlife.com/free-sermon-resource http://www.gospelinlife.com/singleness-the-biblical-guidelines-4641 http://www.gospelinlife.com/singleness-the-biblical-guidelines-cont-4642 关于约会，单身和手淫 如今，选择配偶通常是从表面要求开始，比喻美貌，魅力，事业或人脉广泛。倘若答案满足要求的话，进一步便是见见面，吃一顿饭。若是两方合得来，接着便是肌肤之亲。倘若发展得还可以的话，那才想想来不来一个实在的男女朋友关系。 性是一个强大的力量。它可以使我们的思想糊涂。应当从友谊开始，看是否能了解，接受，欣赏和迁就对方，更理想的就是有共同目标。然后才发展更深刻的友谊，恋爱和承诺。性爱应该是在这之后才发生。 满足的性生活是来自深刻身体的亲密和双方全心全意的投入。因此，性与婚姻应该联系在一起。 至于手淫，它只关于个人的满足。达到高潮后，您可以会感到更加空虚和孤独。手淫也依赖幻想并且容易上瘾。不要让它控制我们。 在拍拖之前，有些人想先了解对方的一切。需知我们是不完美的。我们与配偶的关系依靠于上帝，而我们要荣耀上帝并履行我们的承诺。上帝也继续在我们身上工作。所以不要太谨慎。认识了一段时间之后，如果我们真的很喜欢那个人，便相信上帝并公然地談談戀愛。 如果我们不断遭到拒绝，尝试找出原因。可向您的密友寻求建议。然后再接再厉，寻找其他机会。 有些人想保持单身。那可能是一个好的选择。保罗建议单身（哥林多前书7：1-7），而且基督在世上是单身的。尽管上帝说完美的亚当有夏娃是一件好事（创世记2），但因为我们的不完美，所以幸福的婚姻是很难拥有。配偶可能会重新改变我们的自我形象，这或会带来损害。 因此，不要着迷于结婚或单身的身份。有些人喜欢单身，因为他们重视独立。婚外性行为可以促进这种情况。有些人将单身视为瘟疫。他们可能只希望别人照顾自己。我们应当避免这两者。 对于某些人来说，单身是很容易的。这也是神的礼物。但是对大多数人来说，结婚会是更好的选择。 求上帝的指导. 无论结果我们是单身抑或是结婚都应感谢上帝。 Comments are closed.
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